Risk of Being Recognized ?

[Cindy85251]

Does anyone fear that they might be recognized by someone they know if they post here? Or is that part of the allure?

 

[Rodrigo]

Does anyone fear that they might be recognized by someone they know if they post here? Or is that part of the allure?

If you consider the number of photos where the face is either obscured or not in the photo at all I would say yes, people worry . I have never quite understood why. This site is so blatant in its announcement to the world what its all about, I can't imagine anyone being here who isn't intrigued and curious. If someone you know sees your face wouldn't that be a plus, since obviously they are as interested in what goes on here as you. If you saw someone you know, would you try to contact them and talk about it over lunch or something. Many years ago I saw my daughters picture on a similar website, Dark Wanderer.Net back when they accepted ads with pictures. I have never mentioned it to anyone but then she is my daughter. Talk about awkward. I assume you are free white and 21 or older. I say go for it. If you are married you should have an understanding with your husband. My personal opinion is no matter how exciting it gets you risk great danger of ruining your marriage if you step out without your husbands knowledge and consent. Anything else is just cheating. The good news is there is a growing number of husbands who are just as interested as their wives. You never know until you talk about it.

 

[KKKbitch]

Does anyone fear that they might be recognized by someone they know if they post here? Or is that part of the allure?

No, i'm from germany and i live in a major city. There are not many germans on this site. And the ones who are here, don't know me in RL.

On second thought i'm looking forward to the moment an old white guy see me on the street and ask me if i am the niggerlovin' nazigirl from the internet ;D

 

[Zagg]

Would I ever love to see you on the street, KKKb.

Does anyone fear that they might be recognized by someone they know if they post here? Or is that part of the allure?

No, i'm from germany and i live in a major city. There are not many germans on this site. And the ones who are here, don't know me in RL.

On second thought i'm looking forward to the moment an old white guy see me on the street and ask me if i am the niggerlovin' nazigirl from the internet ;D

 

[BraBaBe]

It's completely natural and totally understandable to be afraid.
If any girl were to claim she had absolutely no fear and no nerves about "coming out" then I'd say she's either impressively thick-skinned, or she's lying.
When I went through it, I had no support network whatsoever, nobody I could trust, and nobody I could turn to or talk to.
I felt completely alone, and I was more miserable, depressed and unhappy during that period than at any other time in my life.
I don't want anyone else to ever go through that.
I think it falls to everyone here to offer as much help, support and friendship as possible to anyone who is worried or nervous about it.
I certainly will be only too glad to help anyone if I possibly can.

These days, everybody who knows me knows about my preferences, and if it's a problem, then it's their problem.

 

[Zagg]

I'm sure that almost everyone here wants to be as helpful as possible to those "coming out". And also to those who aren't coming out, who prefer to have a double life: mild-mannered wives in public, black-dick sucking sluts in private.

It's completely natural and totally understandable to be afraid.
If any girl were to claim she had absolutely no fear and no nerves about "coming out" then I'd say she's either impressively thick-skinned, or she's lying.
When I went through it, I had no support network whatsoever, nobody I could trust, and nobody I could turn to or talk to.
I felt completely alone, and I was more miserable, depressed and unhappy during that period than at any other time in my life.
I don't want anyone else to ever go through that.
I think it falls to everyone here to offer as much help, support and friendship as possible to anyone who is worried or nervous about it.
I certainly will be only too glad to help anyone if I possibly can.

These days, everybody who knows me knows about my preferences, and if it's a problem, then it's their problem.

 

[Cindy85251]

I'm sure that almost everyone here wants to be as helpful as possible to those "coming out". And also to those who aren't coming out, who prefer to have a double life: mild-mannered wives in public, black-dick sucking sluts in private.

Zagg,

I've been the "mild-mannered wife in public......" and sucked a few black dicks over the past couple of years in private. I just have this yearning inside not to hide it anymore and am not sure how to proceed.

Cindy

 

[Zagg]

I guess the first thing would be to tell hubby, if he doesn't already know.

I'm sure that almost everyone here wants to be as helpful as possible to those "coming out". And also to those who aren't coming out, who prefer to have a double life: mild-mannered wives in public, black-dick sucking sluts in private.

Zagg,

I've been the "mild-mannered wife in public......" and sucked a few black dicks over the past couple of years in private. I just have this yearning inside not to hide it anymore and am not sure how to proceed.

Cindy

 

[Disavowed]

Rodrigo,
Would you post your daughters photos you discovered so we can enjoy them also? Evidently she was proud enough to post them. We would enjoy seeing her supporting our community here.

 

[Cindy85251]

Zagg et al,

I'd love to hear some advice on just how to tell my husband. I know that sounds strange since I've been married to him for 25 years.

I was raised in an extremely prejudiced household. His family is even more prejudiced, if that's possible. He has carried much of that through his life. I don't know a way to tell him without him blowing up.

I can't remotely imagine that he'd be OK with it - and shame on me for submitting in the first place - but I did it and I don't think I can stop myself from continuing. The addiction to the risk/thrill/taboo of being a married white woman who loves to suck black dick is very powerful!!!

I have limited my "dates" to oral sex as I worry about getting pregnant, yet I crave the feeling of submitting and of giving pleasure to black men by offering my hands and mouth to them. I don't know how much longer I can resist before I totally submit and let them have all of me.

My 2 children are grown (23 and 19) and able to make their own choices at this time, i.e., I don't worry about the effects of any of this on them.

I am very active in the PTA and several other volunteer community and charitable organizations, so I have to be aware of the impact on that work.

I feel stuck in a very difficult position.

Thanks in advance for any advice.

Cindy

 

[Zagg]

Cindy: You do seem to be stuck in a very difficult position. You know your husband better than any of us here could, and if you think he'd never be okay with it, you're probably right. White guys respond in two basic ways to the idea of their wives being with black men. They either find it very exciting or they find it enraging. There's only a fine line between the two reactions, and it is possible move from the second to the first. But the line is real, and your problem is to decide whether you want to risk your marriage to discover whether your husband could possibly move from rage to excitement. You don't mention whether you have ever had similar relations with white men and, if so, whether your husband knows about them. If he could handle your being with another white man, there's a better chance that he could adapt to your being with black men.

There are a lot of people here on NW that are in your position. We want our partners to engage in IR relationships, but we're afraid to suggest it to them. I know several women here who have relationships with black men without their husbands knowing. It's probably too soon to tell you to just keep your black "dates" on the side. But if you do decide that you have to tell your husband, you want a strategy that allows you to work up to the final admission slowly, so that if he clearly is not going to be accepting, you can back off without much damage to your relationship. If you just blurt out "I've been meeting black men and sucking them off and now I want to be fucked by one" and he blows up, it could end your marriage. Please let us know how things are working out for you.

Zagg et al,

I'd love to hear some advice on just how to tell my husband. I know that sounds strange since I've been married to him for 25 years.

I was raised in an extremely prejudiced household. His family is even more prejudiced, if that's possible. He has carried much of that through his life. I don't know a way to tell him without him blowing up.

I can't remotely imagine that he'd be OK with it - and shame on me for submitting in the first place - but I did it and I don't think I can stop myself from continuing. The addiction to the risk/thrill/taboo of being a married white woman who loves to suck black dick is very powerful!!!

I have limited my "dates" to oral sex as I worry about getting pregnant, yet I crave the feeling of submitting and of giving pleasure to black men by offering my hands and mouth to them. I don't know how much longer I can resist before I totally submit and let them have all of me.

My 2 children are grown (23 and 19) and able to make their own choices at this time, i.e., I don't worry about the effects of any of this on them.

I am very active in the PTA and several other volunteer community and charitable organizations, so I have to be aware of the impact on that work.

I feel stuck in a very difficult position.

Thanks in advance for any advice.

Cindy

 

[Cindy85251]

Zagg,

Thanks for your kind words.

No, I have not cheated with white men before (no offense, I hope)....only black....and it's only been over the past couple of years.

My sister is 2 years older than me, and after she was divorced 4 years ago she started dating black men and telling about "hot" some of her encounters were. As I alluded to in my last post, much of the initial lure to me was to do something "bad" or "wrong", i.e., something very out of character - basically on a dare from her.

But what I found was that by submitting and giving pleasure to these black men, I found a fulfillment I'd never felt before. So it went from a "dare" to a "need".

I can't stop. I know that now.

There's a thrill I can't describe when I see the look on a black man's face when a rich, prim and proper, white (married) woman (me) is kneeling before him and whose only purpose at that moment in time is to suck the cum from his black dick. Many times it's like he can't believe what is acutally happening. I feel both power and vulnerability at the same time - a very arousing combination.

I'll keep you posted.

Cindy

 

[Zagg]

Thanks for the further information, Cindy. You're sure not the only white woman who has that reaction to black men. They can be like a drug. At least you have (?) your sister to share your experiences with. Since you can't stop, your dilemma is whether or not to tell your husband. I hope some of the other women here will weigh in and give you the benefit of their experience. Whatever course things take, best of luck to you. Zagg

Zagg,

Thanks for your kind words.

No, I have not cheated with white men before (no offense, I hope)....only black....and it's only been over the past couple of years.

My sister is 2 years older than me, and after she was divorced 4 years ago she started dating black men and telling about "hot" some of her encounters were. As I alluded to in my last post, much of the initial lure to me was to do something "bad" or "wrong", i.e., something very out of character - basically on a dare from her.

But what I found was that by submitting and giving pleasure to these black men, I found a fulfillment I'd never felt before. So it went from a "dare" to a "need".

I can't stop. I know that now.

There's a thrill I can't describe when I see the look on a black man's face when a rich, prim and proper, white (married) woman (me) is kneeling before him and whose only purpose at that moment in time is to suck the cum from his black dick. Many times it's like he can't believe what is acutally happening. I feel both power and vulnerability at the same time - a very arousing combination.

I'll keep you posted.

Cindy

 

[mrscondo]

Cindy,
You and I have similar circumstances. I can't tell my husband either. I think he knows I fool around some but he has no idea of my black adventures. Over the years I've had black and white lovers. I've had a black boyfriend for a very long time. My BF and I realize we can't be exclusive due to distance and marriage so we both tolerate each others lovers. I am discreet and we meet in other towns. I do party with some black men in my area but in very secretive places and situations. These are people I do business with and we both know secrets of each other that we could destroy each other if we get to talking.

Nothing is finer than when my BF undresses me and I service his needs. Over the years I've learned to become the woman he desires in bed and in public. I dress for him in outfits that I don't wear for my husband or other men. I've wore dresses that barely covered my modesty. I've had sex in front of others, been caught in public places, etc. It's a challenge I welcome as often as I can.

I love the life.

Pam

 

[curiousjoe0072000]

It's completely natural and totally understandable to be afraid.
If any girl were to claim she had absolutely no fear and no nerves about "coming out" then I'd say she's either impressively thick-skinned, or she's lying.
When I went through it, I had no support network whatsoever, nobody I could trust, and nobody I could turn to or talk to.
I felt completely alone, and I was more miserable, depressed and unhappy during that period than at any other time in my life.
I don't want anyone else to ever go through that.
I think it falls to everyone here to offer as much help, support and friendship as possible to anyone who is worried or nervous about it.
I certainly will be only too glad to help anyone if I possibly can.

These days, everybody who knows me knows about my preferences, and if it's a problem, then it's their problem.
You said it best brababe!

 

[willsrvu]

Zagg et al,

I'd love to hear some advice on just how to tell my husband. I know that sounds strange since I've been married to him for 25 years.

I was raised in an extremely prejudiced household. His family is even more prejudiced, if that's possible. He has carried much of that through his life. I don't know a way to tell him without him blowing up.

I can't remotely imagine that he'd be OK with it - and shame on me for submitting in the first place - but I did it and I don't think I can stop myself from continuing. The addiction to the risk/thrill/taboo of being a married white woman who loves to suck black dick is very powerful!!!
..........
Thanks in advance for any advice.

Cindy

Cindy,
Oddly enough, his having been raised "in an extremely prejudiced household" may actually be a good thing for you. People from those backgrounds tend to grow up to be either highly prejudiced themselves or they develop strong curiosities and fantasies regarding the things they were taught to hate.

One way to find out is to see what his true reaction is when he is exposed to some Black on white sex stimuli. If there is a way that you can engineer the two of you watching some porn together and have a couple of scenes showing white women sucking Black cock and be able to see if he gets hard or more excited when he sees those scenes, you may have a chance at having your cake (or cock as the case may be) and eating it too!

Unless he shuts down and goes into a racial rant, you might find he is turned on to watching inter-racial sex. Try watching the movies ahead of time so that you know exactly when the Black scenes are coming up. Just before they do, slip down and start sucking your husband or start playing with his cock. This way you will be able to judge his level of arousal during those scenes. If it appears that he is turned on by them, try to arrange repeat performances where you always are giving him pleasure while he is watching the inter-racial scenes, but avoid doing so during the all white ones or at least don't make it as pleasurable.

Over time he will begin to associate watching Black men having sex with white women as a pleasurable experience and will most likely begin having fantasies about it. Maybe even about watching you with a Black man.

If this seems to be working, buy a black vibrator and use it on yourself when you are fucking him while sitting astride him and facing him so he can see the Black vibrator sliding against your clit. If he can't take his eyes off it, he is probably imagining it being the real thing and it being in you.

If it turns out he is into it, after a while you may find him telling you how hot he thinks it would be to watch you suck a Black dick! Of course you should hem and haw a little to make sure he knows that you're not sure you could do it, but if he really wanted you to, you would try it. But only if it would make him happy.

Good luck,
will

PS: in a subsequent post you mentioned your sister going Black. Does your husband know this and, if so, what has his reaction been?

 

[its_michelle1990]

I personally would never post photos in a forum like this.

I generally am willing to send photos by e-mail if anyone is interested though!

 

[Zagg]

That's pretty wise, Michelle. Most people here are pretty discreet, but it only takes one to get your pic all over the Internet.

I personally would never post photos in a forum like this.

I generally am willing to send photos by e-mail if anyone is interested though!

 

[fukimi]

I personally would never post photos in a forum like this.

I generally am willing to send photos by e-mail if anyone is interested though!

fuki.mi@gmail.com I would love to see them!!

 

[scooby-snax]

As a white guy heavily into Big Black Cock porn I regularly
spend time on BBC orientated video download sites.

It's interesting to note that despite the majority of those uploading
and downloading literally 100's of gigs of BBC porn into their lives
being white males. There seems to be an unwritten rule on these sites
not to talk about why we're all spending our evenings searching out
the Biggest Black Dick porn we can, but to just keep on downloading
film after film after film ...

Now, despite the very real fact that huge numbers of white guys are finding
themselves becoming totally hooked on BBC porn. Most have serious issues
accepting this themselves let alone ever contemplate admitting this weakness
to others.

These guys are the silent lurkers, literally millions of white guys, guiltily
jerking off to BBC porn in the privacy of their own homes, hoping no one will
find out. Lol ..

Sites like NW are a bit different though. These are places to actually talk
about BBC and IR sex, and so attract a different crowd.

However, like many white guys, after spending a couple of years filling up my
hard drive with Massive Black Dicks. I began to have a strong need to start talking
about it.

And sites like NW fulfill that role.

Now I personally don't post that much here on NW, because it's more a general
black worship site than a Black Monster Cock Junkie site, and I have to say it's
not the black guys or black life I'm interested in, it's just their MASSIVE DICKS
that have a hold over me.

-----

Anyway, getting back to the original question. Lol ...

'Does anyone fear that they might be recognized by someone they know if they post here?
Or is that part of the allure?'

Now, white guys new to the BBC scene won't want to hear this, but the more BBC porn
you download and watch, and the bigger the black cocks you're exposed to, the stronger
the urge to talk about it and maybe get yourself caught out becomes.

As a white guy it's a massively hot fear ridden turn on to think someone you personally
know might find out that Huge Black Dicks have a hold over you. Knowing that you're friends,
family, parents and work collegues would all end up discovering your dark hardcore secret.

I used to regularly play 'chicken' seeing how long I dared leave my full name and location
up in my profile before deleting it on various BBC sites. And I've known quite a few white
guys who just can't help themselves doing similar stuff.

Worse, this 'Tempting Fate' stuff becomes addictive. I was recently at my local adult shop
and the guy behind the counter enquired if I'd like to be on their mailing list for new releases.
Now, my better judgement was telling me no way should I let my details be kept on file by a sex shop.
However, I found I just couldn't stop myself giving the guy my full personal email address and
telling him I would only interested in BBC IR porn releases.

I think an internet seemingly full of Huge Black Cocks is causing white guys a whole load of issues.
Massive Black Dicks are genuinely capable of exerting a very powerfull influence over both females
and males of all colours, yet there is little open mainstream discussion or acknowledgement of
this fact, probably because generally people are too afraid to deal with the questions it raises.

( Can you ever un-forget Mandingos Huge Cock once you've seen it. No you can't, the damage is done )

However, it does seem that one of the effects Enormous Black Cocks have on white guys is a very strong
urge to 'accidentally' let others find out about their interest. It's just one of the many
issues white guys into BBC are discovering to their cost, as all those Huge Black Dicks begin to
really mess up their heads ...

So, yeah, part of the allure of sites like this is that you might end up being recognised, and
the inevitable social stigma that would entail.

However, this is only from a (straight)white males perspective. I think any stigma once
attached to white women dating black guys is very very quickly dissapearing altogether.

Anyway, that's for another post.

How many of the white guys here have 'Tempted Fate' and done things that might expose
them. I'm betting it's quite a few. And did it turn you on doing it. Lol .....

Scooby