as far as the submission you are right it does not have to be 24/7 but it should be the norm. In your day to day activities you need to let her have control and encourage her to have control. If you are not willing to be submissive in your day to day life then this "hot sex" you want to see may or maynot happen.
as far as the role model you are right you are not to be replaced in the relationship but you should essentially be replaced in your sexual relations.. That's not to say you can not have fun with her in bed from time to time but your sex should center around her needs and your penis should not be essential to your sex. The male role model you should want for her is the sexual role model in your case a fit well hung black man anything you can do to expose her to this sexual role model is a positive.
Thanks. The submission on my part would be for her sake even in day to day activities. I was speaing more on whren we're apart...such as work. One of the hurddles will be having sexual fun for her without my penis being involved. She loves playing with it and making it cum. Even after eating her and fingering her to several orgasms the other night she wanted to get me off. I just told that it could wait and we shold go to dinner. Yes it was less than submissive, but I'm trying to get her to focus more on herself than she currently does.
okhotwife said:
best of luck...
as far as the submission you are right it does not have to be 24/7 but it should be the norm. In your day to day activities you need to let her have control and encourage her to have control. If you are not willing to be submissive in your day to day life then this "hot sex" you want to see may or maynot happen.
as far as the role model you are right you are not to be replaced in the relationship but you should essentially be replaced in your sexual relations.. That's not to say you can not have fun with her in bed from time to time but your sex should center around her needs and your penis should not be essential to your sex. The male role model you should want for her is the sexual role model in your case a fit well hung black man anything you can do to expose her to this sexual role model is a positive.
@lilhubby: seriously? Is that the best advise you have to offer? I've never gone into detail about how long we've dated or our living arrangements. It is possible to be deeply commited to another person without a marriage certificate. Also I would not marry anyone just so that I could fulfill a sexual fantasy. I'd also think it would be better to have open communication about such fantasies prior to commiting to marriage. Not to say everyl little detail has to be on the table, but maybe a little talk about bringing in other sexual partners even in general not just in regard to our relationship. I'm not trying to be a dick but please be more constructive. You you truly belive what you said explain it.
Well while you are at work submission will likely not be a big part of it. The day to day stuff is what it is. You cannot fully adjust your life in terms of the basic elements into the lifestyle and their is no real need to as I see it... Now if its a case where you CAN take the burden and go to the grocery store on the way home as opposed to her making the stop then you volunteer to make the stop. Again submit to her as often as you can no matter the situation large or small and do this as often as your practically can it may not be a big submission such as going to the grocery but that is a baby step in the right direction.. if you begin to spoil her with these acts she will begin to expect you to do more of these things which is what you want...
As far as sex its no big deal if she fucks you from time to time. The act you spoke of was fine. You pleasured her without your penis she came without your penis and gave you a quick wank... That's fine. Keep your dick from being the instrument to her orgasms is really the key. You basically do not want your dick to be the focus of her pleasure in your current case your tongue and sex toys are the current ideal instruments to her orgasms.
keep at it. repetition is key...
it all seriousness my book may be able to help you if you are serious about this 2.99 is a small price to pay... and i am looking for real people to give me feedback on it anyway!
you are correct zay... and for the record this is the hub posting here not the wife... we share one id... and i would say 80% of the posts on here are mine (the hub)
Actually I bought the book. I'm about half-way through it now. I would be happy to give you feed back as soon as I'm done.
So far I think I'm on the track you describe. I do volunteer to do the "submissive" tasks and chores when the opportunity arises, and as I stated earlier I do try to help her focus more on her pleasure than mine.
Actually last night was kind of a break through for us. It certainly doesn't tie in to cuckolding directly, but does relate to my submission. As I've mentioned, we do have fun with BDSM. Last night, she took charge like never before. I could give y'all all the sexy fun details, but I'll keep this shorter. This time she had the look in her eyes that said "You're mine bitch".
I'll p.m. a review to you when I finish reading it and get the time to type it out. I would also do one on Amazon; however, my reviews all link to my profile which is viewable by friends and family, so a review on a cuckolding book probably wouldn't go over well.
okhotwife said:
awesome...
if you don't mind p.m. your feedback unless its all roses and wonderful!!!
and a review on amazon would be much appreciated...
Another milestone this weekend. We watched some IR porn together. It was fairly tame thought the alpha status of the black man was clear. There was a white guy in the background who actually brought the white woman over. It was alot like a cuckoldng scene except that the white guy got blown by the two blondes that had fluffed the bbc.
Also a couple nights before the IR porn I fuckd her really well with a large black dong and the hitatchi. The dong is realistic in shape and texture but not color. She did comment on the "hollowing" effect it had on her. She said she felt like a chocolate easter bunny.
I'll post the link to the video later when I'm on my desktop..
if you can find it Gang Bang Girl 32 from Anabolic is a good flick... She would have to be ok with the gangbang part of it.. Its a fairly normal Gang Bang flick but the first scene the BBC really steal the show from a bunch of other men.
Nothing overly IR/Cuckoldish here other than the BBC's in the flick definitely clash with the other men... Defiantly made my wife comment when we watched it many years ago...
I do believe this is the movie of which you speak. I remember cumming across it a few years ago.
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okhotwife said:
if you can find it Gang Bang Girl 32 from Anabolic is a good flick... She would have to be ok with the gangbang part of it.. Its a fairly normal Gang Bang flick but the first scene the BBC really steal the show from a bunch of other men.
Nothing overly IR/Cuckoldish here other than the BBC's in the flick definitely clash with the other men... Defiantly made my wife comment when we watched it many years ago...
as far as the submission you are right it does not have to be 24/7 but it should be the norm. In your day to day activities you need to let her have control and encourage her to have control. If you are not willing to be submissive in your day to day life then this "hot sex" you want to see may or maynot happen.
as far as the role model you are right you are not to be replaced in the relationship but you should essentially be replaced in your sexual relations.. That's not to say you can not have fun with her in bed from time to time but your sex should center around her needs and your penis should not be essential to your sex. The male role model you should want for her is the sexual role model in your case a fit well hung black man anything you can do to expose her to this sexual role model is a positive.
We just ordered a strapon. The main purpose was for it to be used by her on me. I am going to try to wear it this weekend to do her too. Hopefully this will show her that my cock does not have to be the focal point.
She also seemed to like the idea of having me tied up in the corner while she "plays" with someone else. Though she was not gender or race specific. We have talked about her having sex with another woman and that I may or may not participate myself. Baby steps...
hi bound, thanks for creating thread. I am in a similiar position that you are in. We recently started watching IR f...d porn. Where one or more black guys role play forcing a girl. This seems to get her very excited. My wife is very conservation and I am her first and only. We are a arab muslim couple.
I am glad you are thinking of getting your gf to BBC sex. Once she is into it she will be totally addicted just as I am when my husband persuaded me to have sex with his black boss. Now I am owned by my husband's black boss and he uses me for his pleasure and the pleasure of his brothas. I am in heaven each time these guys fuck and fill me with their seeds.
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I am glad you are thinking of getting your gf to BBC sex. Once she is into it she will be totally addicted just as I am when my husband persuaded me to have sex with his black boss. Now I am owned by my husband's black boss and he uses me for his pleasure and the pleasure of his brothas. I am in heaven each time these guys fuck and fill me with their seeds.
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