How Black Children Should Refer to Black Lovers and Husbands

[midsgirl4black]

I was discussing this question with my husband, that is, if I have a baby with my black lover, how would the child refer to my black lover and to my husband? I have a daughter with my husband and she just calls my lover by his name, but if my husband is raising a black child on a daily basis that does not seem right. What do other couples do in this situation? My husband suggests Daddy for my lover and Papa for my husband. I should add here that unlike some women here I love my husband and am not into humiliating him; this lifestyle is something we both want and it has nothing to do with humiliation and everything to do with great sex and interracial love. Any advice?

 

[mercurial]

Obviously Daddy for your black lover and Nanny for your husband.

On the slight, slight chance he finds that demeaning, your husband's idea is fine.

 

[midsgirl4black]

I am sure my lover will also be involved with the child a great deal, but probably not daily.

 

[midsgirl4black]

Well think what you like but it was a serious question that my husband and I have talked about and I thought it would be nice to know what other people do. When you have a child that refers to their Daddy constantly as mine does you start to think of who will get called that if you do manage to have a baby by your black lover. If you don't have kids the question might not interest you, but when you do it does. It came up as part of a general discussion of what life would be like if I do manage to get pregnant with my lover, and there aren't a lot of other places to ask. But I guess no one wants to discuss any of the practical issues.