Advice for a Shy Wife

[smolder]

I really enjoy your posts Shy, and I look forward to the day you find out what it's like to be "fucked silly" and hope you will tell us all how it was. I wouldn't overthink things, you seem like you're on a comfortable path, so just keep going. I liked the horror movie analogy but would point out after that first big scare you can start building anticipation for the next one. So thanks for keeping us updated and I look forward to hearing more.

 

[blkfyreatr]

As an answer to a SW post on 1/09. Yes, I do feel that all black males do feel like they are much better sexually than anybody else. Especially if the women is receptive to new, different, awkward positions. I just wanna say also that many of us have alot more than big dicks and unbridled horniness but those characteristics aren't always able to be displayed within a society that is WM ruled. None the less, our sexual confidence lets us know that we BBC holders will fuck you till your nose runs and the dog growls as we leave 'cause we gonna tear the pussy up and leave you breathless. Enjoyed your writing, please keep it up. As a tip to your other WF friends, if any smoke. I've noticed that the ones who favor and are around BM's smoke Newports and other menthols.

 

[letmetasteuthere]

keep working on it....maybe if you set up a situation for yourself to pleasure yourself while watching IR, but when you know he can either watch and not disturb or walk in on you doing it.....

 

[Linda]

I must admit I've received some very sexy messages lately and they have really gotten to me. Now everytime I have sex I find myself thinking what would be different with a black man. When I stroke hubby's cock I wonder how much longer and thicker my black lover's will be and how much heavier it will feel in my hand, how much more it will fill me. Letmetaste, your comment is really exciting, thinking about my husband watching and him knowing I'm turned on by some hot black man is sexy. I'll have to work up some courage to make that happen. Sometimes I wonder how he would react seeing some of the messages, or if he caught me reading some of them.

I was able to measure him, I was commenting on how big the black man in the movie was and asked him if he thought black men were bigger. He said he thought 6" was about average and it was just that porn stars were usually bigger. So it finally led to me getting my sewing tape measure to see how he measured up. He's a little under 5-3/4", but I cheated a little and made it look more like 5-1/2" and he was about 5" around. I teased him about being a good half inch below average, he said I measured wrong and wanted to double check but I wouldn't let him have the tape. I'll bet he's measuring himself first chance I'm not around. He wanted to know where all this interest came from lately and I blamed Kim, telling him she had commented on Ben's size. Of course he wanted to know how big Ben was so I just told him I'm sure he's on the opposite side of average from you. It was an interesting conversation actually discussing my interest in Ben and having Roger encourage me to talk about it.. I feel things are progressing and if I work on bringing this up at other times than during sex I'll have a better feel about how interested he is.

BLKFYR, enjoyed your comments, I have never been fucked til my nose runs, all these expressions make me wonder even more what I've been missing and why you never get that with a white guy. As far as smoking, I don't smoke & had never thought about it, but it seems the preference for a woman looking for BBC should be a big fat cigar.

 

[JD46]

That's so hot that you measured him. Good job! You're getting good at this.

 

[letmetasteuthere]

Make sure progress slowly and steadily....

 

[nevercanthinkof1]

I must admit I've received some very sexy messages lately and they have really gotten to me. Now everytime I have sex I find myself thinking what would be different with a black man. When I stroke hubby's cock I wonder how much longer and thicker my black lover's will be and how much heavier it will feel in my hand, how much more it will fill me. Letmetaste, your comment is really exciting, thinking about my husband watching and him knowing I'm turned on by some hot black man is sexy. I'll have to work up some courage to make that happen. Sometimes I wonder how he would react seeing some of the messages, or if he caught me reading some of them.

I was able to measure him, I was commenting on how big the black man in the movie was and asked him if he thought black men were bigger. He said he thought 6" was about average and it was just that porn stars were usually bigger. So it finally led to me getting my sewing tape measure to see how he measured up. He's a little under 5-3/4", but I cheated a little and made it look more like 5-1/2" and he was about 5" around. I teased him about being a good half inch below average, he said I measured wrong and wanted to double check but I wouldn't let him have the tape. I'll bet he's measuring himself first chance I'm not around. He wanted to know where all this interest came from lately and I blamed Kim, telling him she had commented on Ben's size. Of course he wanted to know how big Ben was so I just told him I'm sure he's on the opposite side of average from you. It was an interesting conversation actually discussing my interest in Ben and having Roger encourage me to talk about it.. I feel things are progressing and if I work on bringing this up at other times than during sex I'll have a better feel about how interested he is.

BLKFYR, enjoyed your comments, I have never been fucked til my nose runs, all these expressions make me wonder even more what I've been missing and why you never get that with a white guy. As far as smoking, I don't smoke & had never thought about it, but it seems the preference for a woman looking for BBC should be a big fat cigar.

Any updates or questions ShyWife?

 

[Linda]

Haven't had much time to write but there have been some interesting developments lately. I finally got a black vibrator, not some monster, those just looked too uncomfortable but big enough to make hubby concerned. We used it the other night watching one of my favorite scenes. Well I should say I used it, with hubby in bed watching me, he said he liked watching me get turned on. So I ignored him and got more & more turned on watching the scene. When it ended I even got him to restart it from the beginning so I could watch it again. By this point I was so turned on I knew I wouldn't last much longer. I had my eyes closed and had found just the right spot with the vibe, imagining myself in the scene, by now I know it by heart. It turned me on even more knowing my husband was watching me get off. After I came I looked over at Roger and saw that he had too, he asked if I had enjoyed myself and I told him it looked like we both did. He went to clean up & while he was in the bathroom I started the scene again, the whole thing had still left me aroused. I thought about what someone here had mentioned about letting him catch me, so when he came back he found me having another go around. I saw him stop at the doorway and I acted like I didn't notice he was there, and he stayed there and watched. After a little while I acted surprised and embarrassed, like I just noticed him there. I caught my breath, then just asked him, Honey, can you close the door and let me relax for a little bit. And he did, I don't know if he was still there or left but it was all really exciting and I found I was able to get off again wondering what he must be thinking. I can see this kind of thing happening again for us.

 

[Zagg]

So now he's watched you with your black vibrator. It seems to me that there is a path that leads from there to him watching you with a black lover.

Haven't had much time to write but there have been some interesting developments lately. I finally got a black vibrator, not some monster, those just looked too uncomfortable but big enough to make hubby concerned. We used it the other night watching one of my favorite scenes. Well I should say I used it, with hubby in bed watching me, he said he liked watching me get turned on. So I ignored him and got more & more turned on watching the scene. When it ended I even got him to restart it from the beginning so I could watch it again. By this point I was so turned on I knew I wouldn't last much longer. I had my eyes closed and had found just the right spot with the vibe, imagining myself in the scene, by now I know it by heart. It turned me on even more knowing my husband was watching me get off. After I came I looked over at Roger and saw that he had too, he asked if I had enjoyed myself and I told him it looked like we both did. He went to clean up & while he was in the bathroom I started the scene again, the whole thing had still left me aroused. I thought about what someone here had mentioned about letting him catch me, so when he came back he found me having another go around. I saw him stop at the doorway and I acted like I didn't notice he was there, and he stayed there and watched. After a little while I acted surprised and embarrassed, like I just noticed him there. I caught my breath, then just asked him, Honey, can you close the door and let me relax for a little bit. And he did, I don't know if he was still there or left but it was all really exciting and I found I was able to get off again wondering what he must be thinking. I can see this kind of thing happening again for us.

 

[smolder]

Shy, what a great update. It sounds like your husband is ready to accept your desire for a black cock. It's so hot that you ignore him while you fantasize about a black lover and he has to jack off watching you. You should encourage him, tell him you think it's sexy when he plays with himself, how cute he is stroking his little dickie. Make sure he realizes you only get off with your vibrator or fantasizing about black cocks. Test him, you may find he enjoys being chided about being less of a man than your fantasy lover. You seem to be well on your way, hope things keep progressing & keep us updated.

 

[vera]

I think, in the end, it comes down to white people knowing their place. You can lobby and persuade in the direction of sex. But more than sex, it is developing the right racial attitudes across all domains that encourages whites to accept their proper place and as a natural consequence of doing so, interracial sex will soon follow.... It's inevitable.

 

[Zagg]

Perhaps not inevitable in every particular case, but, statistically, yes. If you put black men and white women together, and substantial percentage of the white women will go black.

I think, in the end, it comes down to white people knowing their place. You can lobby and persuade in the direction of sex. But more than sex, it is developing the right racial attitudes across all domains that encourages whites to accept their proper place and as a natural consequence of doing so, interracial sex will soon follow.... It's inevitable.

 

[vera]

I agree Zagg.... I see it often. White women and black men seem to be a natural fit. However, the reverse is not so natural... There are white men who will date black women but I think it is done more for social comment, than by natural attraction. In fact I know some white guys who, stung by the prospect and knowledge of a former girlfriend or wife gone black, will deliberetly sit out to pursue a black chick more as a "get-even" gesture than out of love or attraction....

 

[Zagg]

I think the disinclination of black women to partner with white men is even stronger than the discinclination of white men to partner with black women. The attraction between black men and white women does appear, as you say, almost "natural".

I agree Zagg.... I see it often. White women and black men seem to be a natural fit. However, the reverse is not so natural... There are white men who will date black women but I think it is done more for social comment, than by natural attraction. In fact I know some white guys who, stung by the prospect and knowledge of a former girlfriend or wife gone black, will deliberetly sit out to pursue a black chick more as a "get-even" gesture than out of love or attraction....

 

[uselesswimp]

I love the thought of your friend wrinkling her nose in disgust at you suggesting she have a threesome with a white guy. Why would she consider that ?

 

[curiouscraig45]

Shy Wife,

Any update?

V/R
Craig

 

[blkfyreatr]

Ive got a thought for you shy, if your hubby is up to it. Will he have sex in a room with other couples. Not only will this get him in a room with your friend and her man, but it will also give him inspiration. Maybe give your friends man a handjob while your friend blows your man and gets him off in 10 minutes like she says he can. A neighbor of mine gave me a drunken handjob about 7 months ago and just revealed to me today how freaked out she was about it BUT thought about me everyday since and now wants to go black for the first time in 45 years... and behind the back of her husband shes been with for 20+ years.




Serving NC/SC

 

[Linda]

I really don't have much new to update. I am surprised how easily hubby accepted my preoccupation with my new toy. He did at one point say he was concerned that I seemed to like it better than him. The next few times we had sex we didn't use it and I didn't bring up any ir stuff. I made sure to act disinterested, some of the suggestions people sent to me were to always appear bored during sex unless ir was involved. I found he seemed to get more aroused when I threatened to get my toy if he didn't satisfy me. It seemed if I got him excited with a little foreplay, then suggested I might not be satisfied with his performance, I could assure he would get off quickly. While it left me unsatisfied it allowed me to defend having the toy. It seems he is now often the one suggesting using it, and he admits he likes how turned on I get. The teasing about his performance is also becoming more common and I have even caught him bringing it up sometimes.

Also I don't think the 3some thing with Kim is happening. She felt her bf Ben wasn't too keen on the idea of us with my husband. She did say anytime I was interested in something with her & Ben he had no problem with that, go figure, huh? Maybe the suggestion of just getting us all together for some drinks and us girls start acting frisky and just see where things lead would work. I'm not too good at starting things like that but maybe Kim can help get the ball rolling. We'll see how things go, but that's about all that's new with me.

 

[willsrvu]

...... Also I don't think the 3some thing with Kim is happening. She felt her bf Ben wasn't too keen on the idea of us with my husband. .....
She did say anytime I was interested in something with her & Ben he had no problem with that, go figure, huh? Maybe the suggestion of just getting us all together for some drinks and us girls start acting frisky and just see where things lead would work. I'm not too good at starting things like that but maybe Kim can help get the ball rolling. We'll see how things go, but that's about all that's new with me.

Hi Shy,
Glad to hear that your husband's conditioning via the toy is going well.

As far as the foursome with Kim and Ben: did you explain to them that that was most likely the best way to eventually get your husband to let you have threesomes with them? I would think that if Ben really wants to enjoy you that he would let Roger join in a foursome to show him how inadequate he is and open the door for Roger to bow out gracefully in the future so that Ben can enjoy you and Kim as it should be. He might consider letting Roger watch and perform clean up duties for you and Kim, perhaps for him as well.

Having Kim try to get the ball rolling might be the best way to accomplish this in the long run. In the meanwhile, keep hubby's training with the vibrator and interracial films going. You should have him perform oral sex on you as well. In fact have him lick your clitoris while using the dildo on you so that he can get use to serving you this way for when you are with Black lovers in the future.

Especially work on making his quick orgasms become his "normal" condition so that when he is confronted with you being pleasured by Ben or some other Black Man for long periods, he will assume his natural place as your cuckold.
When that happens you must reassure him that even though he may be sexually inadequate, as long as he takes care of your other needs and desires, he will always have a place in your heart. This will help keep him striving to please you.

In addition to showing your displeasure at his increasing inability to please you with his penis, you should make sure you praise his efforts at pleasing you orally, if in fact he does a good job of it. If he doesn't, you need to work on teaching him to pleasure you this way so that he will have something he can be happy that he is able to do for you in place of using his penis. That way, when you cuckold him with your Black lovers, he will be able to take comfort in knowing that while you need them for the pleasure their cocks give you, you will still want him for his tongue.

Best of luck,
will

 

[Zagg]

I'm sorry that things are proceding slowly for you, but I guess that's life. Just don't lose sight of the goal.

I really don't have much new to update. I am surprised how easily hubby accepted my preoccupation with my new toy. He did at one point say he was concerned that I seemed to like it better than him. The next few times we had sex we didn't use it and I didn't bring up any ir stuff. I made sure to act disinterested, some of the suggestions people sent to me were to always appear bored during sex unless ir was involved. I found he seemed to get more aroused when I threatened to get my toy if he didn't satisfy me. It seemed if I got him excited with a little foreplay, then suggested I might not be satisfied with his performance, I could assure he would get off quickly. While it left me unsatisfied it allowed me to defend having the toy. It seems he is now often the one suggesting using it, and he admits he likes how turned on I get. The teasing about his performance is also becoming more common and I have even caught him bringing it up sometimes.

Also I don't think the 3some thing with Kim is happening. She felt her bf Ben wasn't too keen on the idea of us with my husband. She did say anytime I was interested in something with her & Ben he had no problem with that, go figure, huh? Maybe the suggestion of just getting us all together for some drinks and us girls start acting frisky and just see where things lead would work. I'm not too good at starting things like that but maybe Kim can help get the ball rolling. We'll see how things go, but that's about all that's new with me.